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Four Benefits of Reiki – based on my observations of my clients

Posted by on Nov 1, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Four Benefits of Reiki – based on my observations of my clients

Four Benefits of Reiki – based on my observations of my clients

Four Benefits of Reiki – based on my observations of my clients  I have been giving a lot of Reiki treatments recently both as part of my private practice and through the Wessex Cancer Trust in Bournemouth.  Lots of my clients are living with cancer, although I also treat clients experiencing other illnesses and stages of life – grief and bereavement, depression, anxiety, auto-immune diseases and even people who simply say they are ‘not feeling quite like themselves’. Whilst each treatment is as unique as the individual and their situation there are a number of benefits which occur repeatedly: Deep relaxation I have written before about how I believe that the first principle of any complementary therapy is to promote relaxation.  By doing so we are able to temporarily pause the body’s fight or flight stress response.  This allows the body to marshal its resources to begin its own healing process. Many clients report that delicious sense of relaxation where the body is heavy and relaxed, the mind quiet and still, just as when you begin to peacefully and easily drop off to sleep.  Indeed some clients do fall asleep on my treatment couch…..and yes many snore!  No need to feel embarrassed.  I’ve seen and heard it all before! Feeling energised I have been giving Reiki to a lady living with cancer on a regular basis for a few weeks now.  She has been struggling with fatigue, an overwhelming tiredness.  As we met for a consultation immediately prior to her second treatment I asked her how she had felt after the first treatment.  “As though I could go to the gym.  I had so much energy,” was her reply. I don’t think she did go to the gym, but I am sure you take her point. Why is that?  In giving Reiki I am channelling the Universal Life Force Energy, which I believes gives life to all things.  When someone is ill all their energies are being taken up with fighting the illness.   As a result the body can feel depleted and low on energy.  Reiki can boost energy levels for restoration, repair and get up and go. Improved sleep Sleep is the great restorer.  We all know how fabulous we feel after a good night’s sleep.  Sleep is vital to our health and well-being.  Sleep plays an integral role in the healing process. The combination of deep relaxation and Reiki can lead to a good sleep.  One of my regular clients delights in this aspect, confident that after her Reiki treatment she’ll be guaranteed a good night’s sleep. Pain relief I have lost count of how many clients I have seen over the years who report pain relief following a Reiki treatment – back pain, shoulder pain, headaches, muscular aches and pain and arthritis are just some of the examples that come to mind. Initially any improvement in symptoms may be temporary.  However, patterns can be broken or symptoms healed with regular subsequent treatments.  This is because Reiki works to get to the cause of any problem and to restore your natural balance. I believe too that Reiki should be complementary to any medical treatment you are undergoing and to any lifestyle improvements you are making – improving your diet, undertaking regular exercise, meditation etc. Aren’t they...

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My 10 Rules for Weight Loss and Fitness

Posted by on Oct 10, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on My 10 Rules for Weight Loss and Fitness

My 10 Rules for Weight Loss and Fitness

My 10 rules for weight loss and fitness Today I am half way through my project to get fit, improve my diet and to lose weight!  Yes I have stuck to my plan (with a few minor detours) for a whole six months. Initially weight loss was the biggest motivator.  I set myself the target of losing 2 stone and 5lbs over the course of the year.  Six months in I have lost 1 stone and 10lbs.  9lbs to go! However, the importance of weight loss has lessened as I have noticed other benefits : I have dropped two dress sizes. I am fitter and stronger. I have more energy. I am sleeping better. I have far fewer aches and pains. I have fallen in love with exercise again, trying Legs, Bums & Tums and Zumba, both of which are new to me and both of which I love. I have discovered new foods and new recipes. In short I feel fabulous and am enjoying the whole experience. I like to be organised and I like to plan.  So, to help me focus, I put together a set of ‘rules’.  These rules are mine and they suit me.  They are based on my health, what I understand to be current guidelines for nutrition and exercise, what my body likes and dislikes, the amount of time I have during the day to focus on my health and well-being and what I enjoy doing.  The most important factor is that this is not a diet, this is a lifestyle, which needs to be sustainable, realistic, fun and enjoyable : I use Weight Watchers online to give me a framework to control portion sizes and the amount of food I eat. I drink one pint of water when I wake up and thereafter a minimum of 3 pints of water a day. I limit caffeine to two cups of tea a day – thereafter only herbal teas. My favourites are Peppermint, Chamomile and a mixed herbal tea to promote relaxation and sleep. I eat three meals a day – breakfast, lunch and dinner. The majority of my meals are home cooked using fresh organic produce where available. Meals include 7 portions of fruit and veg a day, several servings of oily fish, nuts and wholegrains during the course of a week.  I love a variety of fish and seafood too and tend to choose organic meat from my local butcher.  One day a week is a vegetarian day – meatless Monday. The meals I cook are suitable for my family, their nutritional needs and their tastes. I have neither the time or inclination to prepare different meals for people. I choose fruit as a snack in the late afternoon which is often when I find I am hungry. I tend to opt for a banana, an apple or a handful of berries, depending on what’s available and what I fancy. If I want a treat I eat or drink it and I don’t feel guilty! I make a point of enjoying it.  Nothing is forbidden.  So yes to chocolate, yes to wine, yes to pudding, yes to chips, yes to whatever I fancy.   I simply offset it with a few days of focusing on eating healthily.  Giving myself permission to eat whatever...

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Just for today I will not worry

Posted by on Sep 14, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Just for today I will not worry

Just for today I will not worry

Just for today I will not worry – A mindful approach   “If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.” ― Dalai Lama XIV ‘Just for today I will not worry’ is one of the five spiritual precepts of Reiki, the principles Usui Sensei felt were essential for holistic well-being. How many of us can honestly say that we don’t worry? I meet so many people who talk about their worries and describe themselves as worriers – overthinking problems, situations and other people’s behaviours; anticipating every possible outcome – usually erring on the side of doom and gloom; losing sleep and allowing life to pass them by as they live, not in the present moment but lost in thought. And what for? Honestly, why? Has that behaviour benefited anyone involved? Has it resolved the situation? Has it left you feeling calmer, more in control or more content? Probably not! In my experience worry is just a waste of time and energy, draining the worrier and resolving nothing. I know this from personal experience, a lesson learnt the hard way after hours lost to this pointless behaviour. Worry is a habit that we return to mindlessly when the going gets tough or when we’re pushed out of our comfort zone. There’s good news though – like all habits worry can be undone and replaced with new behaviours. Here are some suggestions to help you make a change : Make the choice not to worry. Do so consciously, perhaps saying to yourself ‘Just for today I will not worry.’ If you then feel yourself embarking on that out of control worry train gently bring yourself back to the present moment and remind yourself ‘Just for today I will not worry. Set aside a proactive worry time. Create a time of quiet to sit with your worries and think about them in a constructive way. Examine them, ask yourself how real they are and what, if anything, you can do about them. If there is a solution or an action you can take then get to work and let go of the worry. If there isn’t then let go of the worry. Trust that everything is going to work out exactly as it is supposed to. Now, of course, that doesn’t mean that it will be the way you want it to. On the contrary, just imagine that it might work out better than you could ever envisage.   Trust that whatever happens you will cope. You will have the resources and support you need to get through. Ask yourself, ‘What am I learning from this?’ The hardest lessons, the toughest experiences, are those that offer the best opportunity for growth and development, to reveal our true potential. Finding the lessons in life’s difficulties is a wonderful way of looking at what needs changing and improving in your life. Persevere with letting go of the habit of worrying. This might be a behaviour ingrained deeply in your psyche and life. Hence it may take some time and perseverance to change the way you think and act. Stick with it and be gentle with yourself. Slow progress is still progress. Life is...

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Reflections On Volunteering With A Local Cancer Charity

Posted by on Sep 6, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Reflections On Volunteering With A Local Cancer Charity

Reflections On Volunteering With A Local Cancer Charity

Reflections On Volunteering With A Local Cancer Charity  I want to share my reflections of my experiences working as a volunteer Reflexologist at the Wessex Cancer Trust centre in Bournemouth. Once a week I give Reflexology treatments to those living with cancer and their loved ones. I love my Thursday afternoons, meeting my clients and being part of the great support team based at the centre. I have a number of regular clients, although demand is such that I tend to be treating many new clients. My clients are living their very unique experience of cancer and in their own unique way. Most are either going through treatment for cancer or have recently finished their treatment.  The types and stages of cancer all differ. This means that people come to see me in varying states of health. Typical symptoms include pain, nausea, fatigue, lymphoedema or numbness and tingling in extremities. It is crucial that any treatment I give complements and does not interfere with the programme of medical treatment the client is undergoing.  Reflexology is not a cure for cancer, neither is it an alternative to any form of medical treatment the client is receiving.  Clients can only be treated with the agreement of their Consultant. Traditional Reflexology is all about stimulating organs and symptoms to kick start the body’s natural healing ability.  However, when treating clients who have cancer that approach would not be appropriate.  Instead I use a gentle treatment to offer mind and body the chance for some respite from the day to day experience of living with cancer, which can be mentally, emotionally and physically arduous.  I aim to allow the client to rest and relax with a Reflexology routine that looks to soothe and calm, allowing repair and restoration. My time with the client is equally valuable when I create and hold a safe non-judgemental space for them, where they can talk openly and be listened to, expressing their thoughts and emotions. I am not a counsellor, simply a listener. Being heard allows the opportunity to consider and reflect and in the company of someone who does not bear the emotional ties or burdens of loved ones.  Not all clients want to talk though – some are more than happy to close their eyes and drift off…..that’s perfect! All my clients have touched me deeply in some way.  I wanted to volunteer to give something tangible to others, to contribute in some meaningful way to my local community.  I had not considered how in giving I would benefit : being trusted by others; witnessing the courage of people facing difficulties in their lives; witnessing love, concern and compassion for others; sharing laughter often during the most difficult of times and having the sense that in some small way I am helping to make life and its experiences a little more positive for others. It is humbling and uplifting in equal measure.  ...

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Six Ways In Which Regularly Attending A Reiki Share Can Benefit You :

Posted by on Jul 3, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Six Ways In Which Regularly Attending A Reiki Share Can Benefit You :

Six Ways In Which Regularly Attending A Reiki Share Can Benefit You :

Six Ways In Which Regularly Attending A Reiki Share Can Benefit You : When I finished my Reiki Master Course my first goal was to set up a regular Reiki Share. I believe attending a Reiki Share is vital to deepening your Reiki knowledge and awareness, as well as helping to keep you motivated to continue to practice Reiki. Here’s why : You spend time with like-minded people. Reiki Share brings together people who share your passion and enthusiasm for Reiki and for an holistic approach to life; people who will lift you up and inspire you. You have the opportunity to give Reiki. Following the old adage ‘practice makes perfect’, Reiki Share enables you to practice, practice practice. Allowing you to learn, and to familiarise yourself with Reiki, observing it as it flows through your body and out of your hands. Watching for its cues for action and being guided appropriately. Reiki Share – you give and you receive. There is nothing better than lying on the couch and receiving Reiki. That wonderful sense of deep relaxation, of letting go and of that intimate connection to your true self and to your true energy. I use the Reiki Share to help personal development and learning with Reiki by covering a different topic each time we meet. I like to inspire you by encouraging you to think about Reiki in a different way and the variety of uses Reiki has as part of your life. Learning as you work alongside and listen to fellow Reiki practitioners, sharing knowledge and experience. Sending Reiki distantly – this is all about being part of something bigger. Making a contribution to the wider world and society by sending Reiki out to people, animals, the planet – whoever, whatever, wherever and whenever it is needed. We always engage in a guided meditation. This puts you in touch with yourself, gives you an awareness of your own energy and any healing required. It allows you to see past the chatter of your mind and to see the truth of the matter. I lied – there is a seventh – homemade cake – always a benefit and a comfort.   A cuppa and a slice of cake offers a natural pause for conversation and for...

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What can you expect from a Reiki treatment?

Posted by on May 17, 2016 in Latest News | Comments Off on What can you expect from a Reiki treatment?

What can you expect from a Reiki treatment?

What can you expect from a Reiki treatment? The first step is for me to put you at your ease. After all I am going to ask you to lie on the couch, close your eyes and relax, whilst I work to channel Reiki to you through your energy body. That’s a pretty big ask for some people. Their minds are full of, “What’s happening?” “Is it working?” “Is this real?” “Can I trust this woman?” Of course I know that Reiki is real, that it does work and that I am trust worthy. However I understand that I need to earn your trust and the best way for me to do that is to be myself, be honest, be professional and to trust that Reiki will work to give you exactly what you need. I start any treatment by chatting to you. This is to put you at your ease, for you to start to relax and to suss me out. I’ve written in a previous blog about how beneficial it is for you to share your experiences, your wisdom, your thoughts and anxieties : http://www.halcyoncomplementarytherapies.com/latest-news/talk-helps/. Expressing these deep held thoughts can often be the key to unlocking, releasing and healing emotions, which can be causing illnesses and imbalances. Sharing and being properly heard is a very cathartic experience. The interesting thing about Reiki is that I don’t need to know what’s ‘wrong’ with you. I am simply a conduit, a channel, for Reiki. Reiki is an intelligent energy, which will work with your own inner wisdom to give exactly the healing required when you are ready. The best Reiki treatments unfold when the Reiki Practitioner butts out, takes their ego and their expectations out of the equation and allows Reiki to work for the highest good of the recipient. It’s important to understand that there is no way I can know what your highest good is, but there’s more than a fair chance that you will know – consciously or subconsciously. That knowing, combined with Reiki, is a very powerful and beneficial force. Once we have had a chat, or rather you’ve talked and I’ve listened, then it is time for you to make yourself comfy on my treatment couch.  Pillows, blankets and support for your knees and back complete what I hope will be a cosy and nurturing experience for you. Once you are comfortable I take the opportunity to observe your chakras using a dousing crystal. Chakras are part of your energy body. They are like cogs that move energy through your energy and physical bodies. I use them to give me feedback about your energetic and physical health, indicating where there may be energetic imbalances or blocks. Then you simply close your eyes, focus on your breathing and relax, allowing your troubles and day to day cares to melt away whilst Reiki and I get to work. Reiki is a hands on energy treatment. As I have already said I am acting as a channel or conduit to allow Reiki to flow into your energy body. When we learn Reiki we are taught a series of hand positions over, around and on the body, which maximise the flow of energy for you by working around the chakras. These hand positions are not prescribed but...

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Reiki Energetic Cleansing Routine To Use In The Shower

Posted by on May 4, 2016 in Latest News | Comments Off on Reiki Energetic Cleansing Routine To Use In The Shower

Reiki Energetic Cleansing Routine To Use In The Shower

A Reiki Energetic Cleansing Routine To Use In The Shower I developed this routine  to help cleanse my energy body when I have been exposed to toxic or negative energy. I also use it to help re-balance and energise when I have been over-giving and am drained. This is not always as a result of my work but comes about after being in crowded or busy public places.   I noticed the need to restore my energy after a recent long flight, after having attended a concert surrounded by hundreds of other people and a holistic / spiritual fair where the energy was out there! All situations where I had no control over the people near me. Sometimes I need this routine to clear and ground me after a fretful night with too much on my mind. It is a visualisation and energetic healing routine incorporating Reiki and colour, which I find empowers this technique and brings it to life for me. Having worked through the routine I generally feel mentally clearer, emotionally more balanced, mentally and physically more relaxed and less stressed. I find that physical symptoms such as muscular tension in areas like my neck, shoulders and gut melts away and even headaches dissolve. So, here’s what you do : Warm your shower water to your preferred temperature. As you step into you shower say your version of the Reiki invocation, requesting that Reiki flows through the shower, mingling with the water and empowering it with Reiki. Ask that your whole energy body, your physical body, your emotions and thoughts be cleansed and cleared of any negativity and toxicity. Ask that any healing that occurs is for your highest good and that anything needing healing is instantly transmuted to the light. Think, ‘Reiki on’. Use the Reiki symbols as appropriate and intend Reiki to flow.   I use the Reiki symbols over and around the shower head. Stand directly under the water and visualise Reiki cleansing your physical and energy bodies. I tend to see Reiki as a brilliant white light, healing and restoring as it flows down and around me. Visualise Reiki flowing down through your body, hitting, illuminating and re-balancing each chakra as it flows downwards. Picture each chakra rotating, full of Reiki in the form of a clear white light. Imagine each part of your body receiving that beautiful, natural and harmonising Reiki. Reiki in the form of a beautiful, clear white light, flowing down through your Crown Chakra, over the top of your head and skull. Reiki strengthening your connection to the Universe and your ability to channel Reiki. Reiki flowing down into your Third Eye Chakra, washing through your brain, your forehead, your eyes. Down through the back of your skull and through your face and jaw bone.   Relaxing, softening, easing tension. Reiki allowing you to see the truth of the world around you, to be guided by your intuitive insights. Reiki flowing down into your neck and throat, re-balancing your Throat Chakra.   Reiki releasing tension in your neck and giving you the support to release what needs to be said or to let go of harsh words you have already spoken.   Reiki allowing you to be honest with yourself and others. Reiki washing down through your spine, your shoulders and your chest, flowing...

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Reiki Level 1 : It’s All About You

Posted by on Apr 25, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on Reiki Level 1 : It’s All About You

Reiki Level 1 : It’s All About You

Reiki Level 1 : It’s All About You I have lost count of how every time I introduce myself to people as a Reiki Master they say, ‘Oh I did Reiki Level 1 years ago but I never use it.’ That one sentence makes me feel so sad and so frustrated. Reiki Level 1 is all about you! Yes imagine ……you, you, you fabulous you! When your Reiki Master attunes you to Reiki they are giving you a gift of self-love and self-healing that you can tap into at any moment forever. What a precious gift that is. May be that message isn’t put across clearly enough during a Reiki 1 course. I have changed the content of my courses to ensure that is the theme I return to again and again. Reiki 1 is all about you…..healing yourself, learning to love and care for yourself, learning to trust Reiki……and the best way for you to do that is to give yourself Reiki everyday! I suspect part of the problem is that people are keen to train to be Reiki Practitioners, to be able to give Reiki to others. This is a wonderful aspiration, to share this gift and to help other people……but why the hurry to give to others before you give to yourself? Do you value others before yourself? Well, you can’t pour from empty cup, whether you are Reiki practitioner or any other sentient being on the planet, who loves and cares for others. Many people never continue their Reiki journey with Reiki 2. Perhaps because they have never fallen in love with Reiki, learnt to trust it, learnt to incorporate it in their daily lives. But if you don’t give it a try you will never have the opportunity to observe it working its magic in your life and the lives of those you love. At the very least Reiki will help you to relax your mind and body, to give you a break from the day to day stresses and strains of life. It will leave you intimately connected to yourself, able to be better cope, with an attitude of kindness for yourself and others. What’s not to love about that? All it takes is 10 minutes a day and Reiki on. We can all find that for ourselves. A minimal investment with a maximum return. Go on! I dare...

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11 Tips for a good night’s sleep

Posted by on Mar 21, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on 11 Tips for a good night’s sleep

11 Tips for a good night’s sleep

11 Tips for a good night’s sleep Several of my clients have mentioned that they are not sleeping very well at the moment, which has motivated me to write this blog with my top tips to help combat sleeplessness. Do not stress about not being able to sleep If you keep telling yourself that you can’t sleep, then spend the whole of the next day telling everyone else that you’re not sleeping or start winding yourself up about not sleeping, you are setting yourself up for a sleepless night. It will become a self-fulfilling prophesy. Accept your sleeplessness and make a decision to do something positive to change it.  Take your focus to the positive changes. Look after your bedroom and your bedroom will look after you Bedrooms are designed with a couple of main activities in mind – sleeping and sex! Don’t use your bedroom for anything else – no telly, no surfing the net and definitely no work! Your bedroom is your sanctuary, your chill out zone, your place of rest. Firstly tidy up – that means no dirty laundry spread all over the floor. Dirty clothes pick up the energies of all the people and places we have come into contact with during the day. Do you really want the energy of that unpleasant work colleague or woman stood in the queue next to you at Tesco in your bedroom? Don’t stop at the laundry. Clutter has an energy, which can disrupt your sleep. Make tidying up part of your bedtime routine – think makeup and beauty products on your dressing table, books, handbags etc. Is your bedroom well ventilated? Too warm or too cold? Too noisy? Too bright? Think comfort, think dark and think quiet. What changes do you need to make for your maximum comfort? Ban electronic devices I believe that the radiation waves from mobile and wifi devices are harming our health. They’re certainly disrupting our sleep. Why is your mobile phone on? Are you really checking Facebook, e-mails and texts in the middle of the night? You are? Well no wonder you’re not sleeping! Firstly the light from electronic devices is disrupting your pineal gland, so that it can’t distinguish the natural light rhythms of day and night. Secondly every time you take a peep at communications from someone else you are stimulating your brain to start thinking, analysing and worrying. The point of sleep is to give your brain some down time, off line from the rest of the world. Thirdly how does the constant pinging, buzzing and vibrating of your phone enable restful sleep? Step away from electronic devices No I am not about to repeat myself. For all the reasons above turn them off, let go of your Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) for a couple of hours before bedtime and reduce your mental stimulation and anxiety. Stay away from electronic devices For all the reasons above do not get up and turn your phone, laptop or tablet on in the middle of the night. You’ll just be setting yourself up for mental overload. Honestly I have lost count of how many of my clients say they can’t sleep and that they have been on line in the wee small hours, stalking their friends or playing Candy Crush! Bedtime routine...

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What I am learning from a daily meditation practice

Posted by on Mar 1, 2016 in Latest News, Uncategorized | Comments Off on What I am learning from a daily meditation practice

What I am learning from a daily meditation practice

What I am learning from a daily meditation practice I have been devoting 30 minutes a day to meditation for the last 45 days since I enrolled on a mindfulness and meditation course in January. I felt drawn to try meditation because, having researched its benefits for holistic health, I felt that my health and lifestyle was in need of overhauling. I was particularly aware that I have developed a number of habits : to be emotionally reactive to people and situations to go mentally AWOL and be lost in thought rather than fully present to not listen properly but rather to be waiting for an opportunity to speak my mental narrative out loud overthinking, overanalysing and worrying to always imagine the worst case scenario my inability to quieten my chattering mind, which plays a constant narrative on all events of my experience – relevant or not, most especially at 3.00 am when I am trying desperately to sleep. I decided that the best way to set aside a dedicated meditation time would be to get up half an hour earlier than usual. I will admit that there have been some mornings when I have not wanted to stir from my warm bed, when the prospect of dragging myself away has been an unpleasant one! However, I have done so and reaching for a blanket warming on the radiator, finding a cosy dressing gown and warm socks I sit in an upright chair, switch on the guided meditation CD and allow myself to relax and follow my breath. Apparently all I need to do is follow my breath and when I notice thoughts or feelings allow them to arise and pass. Sounds easy right? Wrong! My mind can lead a trail to a maze of overthinking and I can happily follow and find myself lost. However, the point of meditation seems to be I am observing what is going on in my mind rather than getting caught up in it or trying to stop thinking, returning my focus endlessly to the breath once I have become aware that I am distracted. I have noticed a few patterns in my thinking and feeling during meditation : There have been occasions when I don’t want to meditate and my mind is full of what my forthcoming day holds, jumping forwards in time, planning and anticipating. I have found that I can be too impatient and just want to get the meditation over and done with, to get on with my day. When I haven’t slept well I notice that my mind can be full of negativity and it will not stop that constant chatter. I can feel deeply relaxed and connected to my body and energy…………then my mind interrupts and says something like “Hey! Wow! This is amazing! Check this out!”…..to which my mind replies, “Really? Do you mind? I was enjoying that!” I can be entirely focused on my breath and in that moment I am aware of how clear, still and focused my mind is…..until it begins chattering again! Memories of events, thoughts and feelings pop into my mind from nowhere with a power still to hurt and upset. This can be guidance around issues that require further self-work and healing. My mind is clear, still and focused; my...

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